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Author : Max Vogt

Aging is a fact of life; nothing that we do or say can really change this fact As we all get older, our health is going to change as well; hopefully good health stays with our families and loved ones as long as possible, but sometimes we just aren't that lucky, and fate deals us a different hand than we expected What exactly are we supposed to do? How should we deal with it?

Some people deal with aging better than others Are you someone who wants to age gracefully or are you going to put up a fight? Is having your first grey hair or losing your last hair on your head the end of the world or is it going to be a day that you remember for the rest of your life?

If you have a spouse or long-term partner, you may notice that they are growing older We often don't notice that we are getting older ourselves In your partner you might see it on the number of hairs in his comb; the number of pairs of pants that she can't get into; or the new wrinkle that she had whenever she smiles is now on her face all the time now, even when she isn't smiling

I have one client who is having a disagreement on what they think is the best way to age Take a look at their story, and tell me what you think

Bob and Kelly
Bob and Kelly have been married for more years than Kelly would admit it In fact, if you subtracted the years that they were married from how old Kelly claims she is, she and Bob would have gotten married when Kelly was only 12 Kelly goes to the spa every week, won't step outside the door without a hat for fear of wrinkles and wants to get cosmetic surgery to make her face and body look even younger

Bob says that she loves Kelly for the way that she is, and that she doesn't want her to change the way she looks too drastically, especially with something that has risks involved with it and could possibly be dangerous

What do you think about this? Have you or your friends had an experience like this, where one person in the couple wants to stay young, while the other wants to just let nature take your course? This may not just include getting plastic surgery done or spa days, but can include getting a toupee, buying a fast sports car on your 50th birthday, dating a much younger man (or woman), or just trying to hang out more with your adult children and their friends

If you are worried about the way that you are aging, one thing that might help is the Intimacy Paradox This paradox is something that I've been sharing with my private clients for years The principle is pretty easy to understand, and says that if you want to have a great marriage, you need to accept yourself 100% and you need to accept your partner 100% for who they are right now If you plan on changing yourself or your partner when you (or they) don't want to, you will end up having resentment in your relationship

Do you think that the Intimacy Paradox would work in Bob and Kelly's relationship? Would it work in yours? 100% acceptance of yourself and your partner may seem like it is difficult to do; what do you think that the most difficult thing to accept about your partner is going to be? Is there something that you don't think that you could accept about your partner?

In this case study, another of my couples that I help out is having problems with health and aging See if you can relate to them, and see if you have had these problems or if can envision having these problems in the future

Sally and Marty
Sally and Marty aren't an old couple They got married young, had children pretty early, and now are in their early 50s Recently, their youngest child just left for college, so now it is just the two of them at home They don't really know what to do with all of their time; before, they were always watching their children's ball games, going shopping with them, or just having others at the dinner table to help liven up the conversation

They aren't really having a problem with anything in their marriage life, but they don't have really anything to talk about They have never had this much time alone, and don't know what to do with the next thirty years of their life together

If this has happened to you, what did you and your partner do that helped? Can you imagine this happening to you? What should Sally and Marty do to solve this?

One thing that can help couples in their marriage when they are having problems that are related to health and aging is to study their past If you've watched your parents and other friends and seen how they dealt with aging, you might be able to get clues to how you will age We all form our beliefs off of our observations that we make from the time we are young to the present day Our beliefs can change over time, but usually we have a lot of the beliefs that our parents gave to us (either from mimicking them or from doing the exact opposite of what they did) I outline all of the different types of Marriage Blueprints that couples can have; find out which one you belong to

Wild Things can sometimes have a problem with aging and health problems, because they are so active in their life; when they get older, they are often frustrated when life starts slowing down on them Wild Things live life while they can, and can't wait to tell their grandchildren stories of how they did some wild things

If you are a Blissmate, you are a lot like Wild Things, in that you want to have a lot of new experiences, but at the same time, you want to experience these things with your spouse When one of you has to take a break at a certain activity for whatever reason, it usually sidelines the other member of the couple

Pilgrims are really interested in something in their life, and usually put all of their passion and life into this one topic Health and aging problems can be really frustrating for this group of people, but at the same time, Pilgrims usually get closer to their goals with age

Like Sally and Marty, the Big Heart Family followers usually get empty nest syndrome Family is the most important thing to these people, and when everyone moves out of the house, they are really depressed and don't know what to do with their lives

Pioneers, who are duty bound, want to make sure that they fulfill their duty If their partner is ill, they will want to take care of them, because of this duty What in interesting about pioneers is that they often have a cause that they tend to serve, but they are very loyal and will drop everything for their partner

Visionary families are also very oriented on a goal, and want to share this vision with their spouses Visionaries often want to go to new places to further their vision, and are often very disappointed if they don't get to fulfill their dreams due to aging or health issues

The Golden Rule Family of marriage blueprints considers fairness and equality to be number one When they are young, the golden rulers believe that old people should be respected, and when they age, they expect to be treated well themselves

The eighth of the Marriage Blueprints is the Royal Family This blueprint is one that makes social status really important; with age, social status grows and then declines when you are too old to keep up your social status by getting your face out there Aging is really hard for the Royal Family because their whole life is based on how people perceive them

What Marriage Blueprint are you and your spouse? Do you think that the way that you view your health and aging is in synch with the way that your Marriage Blueprint does? What tips and hints do you have for getting older that have helped your marriage? What is the most difficult thing about aging, and what scares you the most?

For a Free, Confidential, Personalized Great Relationship Love Quiz a(retail value: $49.95) go to Relationship Quiz at http://www.AskDoctorMax.com Find out what your Marriage Blueprints(TM) are.

Author : Max Vogt

People are always warning about the danger signs in relationships (I've done it plenty), but how do you know if you are doing well?

How do you know if you are on the right track?

It's not just "lack of problems," because if that's all that having a good relationship is for you, then your view of relationships is just too shallow and poor At least in my opinion

Let's talk about how to know if you are in a great relationship or headed in the right direction It's often been said that you can't hit a target if you can't see it

So let's make a target!

Here are eight signs or indicators that you are having a great relationship I made these simple and clear There are clearly many other ways to know about the quality of your relationship, or so it seems

I say "or so it seems," because often what is taken to show great relationship quality turns out to be faulty and false, such as how often you make love or whether you talk together a lot These I call the "quantity error," because you can be having a lot of fantastic sex and still feel very empty inside

You can be talking with one another every day all day, but if it isn't really satisfying, it's not an indicator of a great relationship

What I tried to do is to show you signs of a deep enduring relationship, things which show you are likely to make love last forever

So here goes These are not in any particular order And for the purposes of simplicity I just alternated "he" and "she" in the eight signs, so I said "you can't wait to tell him " But it could be "her" just the same

Please go ahead and put in the right pronoun in your mind Change it to your circumstances

1 When away from your sweetie, you can't wait to tell him about something you heard that is funny or interesting You are eager for the moment you get back together

This shows your eagerness to connect It's what we call "thoughtfulness" or "mindfulness " You have your sweetie on your mind a lot and things that you feel, think or hear you want to share This shows an important connection

2 When she enters the room, your heart and stomach kind of "skip a beat" and you feel a jump of energy

This shows it's not just a mental connection, but also a deep physical one Your body feels the excitement and energy and anticipation for connection This is a great sign of a passionate connection The ancient Greeks had a god named "Eros" who was known when he was around to cause a lot of enthusiasm, joy and energy (sex too!)

3 You are consistently loyal to your sweetie and don't dish him or say bad things behind his back with your friends or in public: you stand up for him

Make a gut check to see how loyal you truly are to your sweetie Are you tempted to join in on the "rag sessions" with other women or men about your beloved? Or are you truly loyal? This is one of the most important keys to true long term happiness in relationships true loyalty You don't betray your beloved at all, even in what seem like minor ways!

4 When you are with her, you feel you can really be who you are and don't have to "fake" your real thoughts, feelings or true self

Really being able to be yourself, your true self, is incredibly important in great relationships It contributes to a deep sense of "being at home" with another person On the other hand, if you are always trying to please the other person and just conform and compromise, it eats at you after a while, right? You might stay together, but would you call it a great relationship if you can't truly be yourself?

5 Your "inner image" of him you carry around is of someone you respect; he has a "good reputation" with you as someone you think highly of

I've talked about this "good reputation" or "bad reputation" you carry about your wife, husband or sweetheart as being either a relationship killer or joy bringer Inside of you, do you really see the other person as someone you don't just love and have feelings for but someone you really respect as a person?

6 You give each other a "break" - the benefit of the doubt - when you disagree, and make a genuine and sincere effort to get closer to one another despite (and maybe even because of) your differences

People in great relationships start by givine one another "a break" when discussing heated topics They aren't always trying to pounce on one another or undercut one another It's critical for a great relationship that you give the other person respect and equality!

7 You are friends as well as lovers

I think most people know this - how important it is to be friends as well as lovers - but how many people really put in the effort to make sure it stays that way? Many people treat their husbands, wives or sweethearts worse by far than their friends Think of it this way, if this was a friend, would you still talk the same way you do now to them?

8 You look toward the future with one another and see it as always growing and changing in positive ways in your relationship

Great relationships are not just about today they are about forming a deep, permanent bond with one another Part of great relationships is great imagination, being able to envision a great future together

As you look at these 8 signs of a great relationship, how many do you see in your relationship right now? If you have 6 or less, it's time to dig in and try harder - but only if you want to truly have intimacy and a great relationship!

Dr. Max is known as the world's greatest expert in helping you have a great relationship. Relationship advice , marriage counseling , he offers it all!

Author : Jerry Leung

They say that marriages are made in heaven but there are also couples who take their marriage in their own hands and decide their own partners The idea of love marriage as opposed to arranged marriages is a hotly debated topic especially in the Indian culture where most of the couples prefer arranged marriages

However there are certain advantages and disadvantages of love marriages and any marriage by and large depends on the partner's commitment to each other Since a love marriage is a marriage of choice it can last far longer as long as there is the bond of love between the couple However there have been numerous examples of failed love marriages and also those which have lasted long

Advantages of Love Marriages

For those who prefer love marriages there are many advantages, one of them being the freedom of choice in choosing one's partner The individual is also responsible for the consequences good or bad that a love marriage can have

In love marriages the partners know each better and accept each other irrespective their shortcomings or bad habits And when one knows one's partner better one can deal better with any future conflict In love marriages there is no compulsion in love; couples do not love each for the sake of loving it comes from their true feelings for each other There is perfect bonding of the souls in a love marriage and hence the secret of their stability

When the partners are in perfect harmony the daily chores seem like nothing and one can easily overcome marital difficulties with each other's help However if a love marriage is superficial and depends only on physical attractiveness, the chances of it lasting are very poor Love marriages also help in bridging the gaps of caste, creed and religion and this is especially important in India

The Disadvantages of Love Marriages

Those who oppose love marriages cite different reasons and think that marriages of these types do not last long For some couples there is no family support and even their relatives do not approve of their marriage The biggest disadvantage of love marriage is that the chances of break up are far greater due to the freedom which each partner enjoys

In the Indian context a love marriage is almost like a disgrace to the family and the boy or the girl live like outcastes However modern Indian families do approve of their children's love marriage as times have changed Finally what matters is the personal bonding between the partners and this helps in making the relationships last longer

Jerry Leung designs Modern Chinese Wedding Invitations. He runs a website on Wedding Tips. Be sure to check Wedding Vendor Directory.

Author : Kenneth Scott

A marriage is like any relationship and has its good times and bad, its agreements and disagreements No one can expect everything to be wonderful at every minute of the day when two people from different backgrounds and with different feelings and expectations live together Some marriages have serious problems that must be resolved through concentrated effort or even therapy, but most marriages just become boring over time

When considering problems in a marriage, it is critical to think about what exactly is causing the conflict or uneasiness before taking any action In many marriages, the excitement of first love tends to fade with time This does not mean that the partners love each other any less It just means that they need some stimulation to remember and maintain the feelings they used to have for one another The stimulation is often referred to as romance Many individuals think that a marriage that appears ordinary lacks love, but this is untrue Most marriages lack romance While love is an easy and peaceful feeling, romance is the element that makes a relationship hot!

Everyone in any kind of personal relationship wants passion and romance However, there are some things about romance that people do not understand The most common difficulty in creating romance is that people do not know how to accomplish it Sometime, they are stuck in societal classifications, and their partners cannot appreciate them for their unique qualities As a result, people often just give up on finding romance

Today, when we are accustomed to convenience and having everything happen at the touch of a button, making an effort to create romance seems too difficult However, you can take some really old-fashioned ideas about romance and make them work in our modern world Romance in the 21st century can be alive with innovative ideas, passion, and creativity Romance refers to the way you express your love for another, and it is necessary if you want to keep your love exciting and new Without romance, love can become tiresome Expressing your love through romance only works when it occurs without ulterior motives Romance should only be initiated in order to show your love and appreciation for your partner

Think of romance as an artistic creation rather than as a science Individuals who feel they must compete in everything they do must eliminate that attitude when attempting to create romance Love and romance should not be a contest where one partner or another strives to win Romance requires cooperation, but you can be romantic while retaining your individuality Love and romance can transform you and your partner into perfect companions

To find more information and advise about relationships and marriage visit http://marriage-directory.com

Author : Warren Wong

Many people who consider themselves to be a victim of infidelity are looking for a reason or an explanation for why their partner pursued a physical relationship with another person There is one simple explanation for this that is applicable to anyone reading this article and hoping to learn why infidelity occurs: certain needs were no longer being met

On a fundamental basis, an intimate relationship is no different than a business relationship Apple wanted a lot of hype to surround the release of their iPhone AT&T wanted to provide consumers with a good reason to choose their service over a competitor's The two companies realized that the whole would be greater than the sum of the parts if they made an agreement to release the iPhone exclusively to AT&T customers Intimate relationships work in exactly this fashion One person has a certain set of needs They meet another person with a set of needs of their own The two people realize that they might be able to provide for each other's needs while simultaneously having their own needs provided for In that moment, their whole is greater than the sum of their parts, and so a relationship begins

The most successful relationships are the ones where the people are able to adapt to each other's changing needs People's needs are always changing Eventually they disappear altogether This is why the great spiritual leaders in our world have never been in a relationship It wasn't a need of theirs They have no (or at least very few) needs They simply give

When a person enters a relationship, one of three things will happen: a ) through the therapy provided by their significant other, their needs will be met so abundantly that they will eventually want for nothing, b ) the person will continue having needs that are constantly evolving in their depth and characteristics, but their mate will be aware of this and continue to provide them with their needs, at least enough to ensure that their own need of monogamy is met, or c ) the person's needs will eventually no longer be met by their spouse

When the last of these three possibilities occur, quite understandably, the person will look elsewhere for their needs Sometimes this results in what many refer to as "infidelity"

When a person engages in an act of intimacy with another person, it could seem intuitive to think that they had a physical need that was no longer being met But this is not always the case It could be that they had emotional needs that were not being met which had no direct relation to sexuality These needs could be as simple as sharing the details of their life with someone An act of intimacy can occur if the person they find to fill this void in their lives has a need of their own they want in exchange: sex

One of many huge fallacies of our society is that relationships whose whole is greater than the sum of the parts will always remain that way This fallacy has millions of people each year entering into an institution we call "marriage", which states that they will be together forever It would be unreasonable, perhaps even downright unfair to expect another person to constantly, always, and forever be prepared to provide for your needs Even more, it would be unfair to expect one's self to be able to do this for another

After reading that last paragraph, you might be thinking to yourself, "well you make it sound like infidelity is inevitable if we place expectations [like staying together forever] on relationships " If you are thinking that, you are absolutely correct

The author writes for Surviving Infidelity, a website dedicated to people coping with infidelity in their lives.

Author : Kenneth Scott

People with physical disabilities have special problems when thinking about marriage

Individuals who may require some physical aid may be very self-reliant in other areas of their lives and much less helpless in a marriage relationship than able-bodied people

A marriage is a serious proposition that involves real responsibilities It is not a life-long party Being ready for marriage means that you can take care of yourself, but many individuals seem to reach adulthood without this ability Some people want to appear strong, while others prefer to mother those who seem helpless, finding their helplessness attractive

Marriages involving these kinds of people are dangerous because, eventually, everyone gets tired of carrying someone elses burden, and because people get tired of dealing with the abled-bodied helpless

Helplessness does not refer to the lack of any specific skill or ability Few people, at the time of their marriage, have all the abilities and skills required No, helplessness means a general attitude that makes a person avoid taking any responsibility and expecting others to take responsibility for them These people should not be blamed for their attitude; it may not be their fault that they are like this They are not incurable either

While they may be incompetent because someone else has always been there to take care of them, they can learn to live on their own with time However, as long as these individuals cannot take care of themselves, they are not ready to be married

A successful marriage requires the ability and willingness of both partners to do their share of the work involved Lets consider the case of Harold and Dolly

They were nearly engaged when they spent several days together at a party during which work was divided up among the partygoers Harold seemed to always be somewhere else when there was work to be done He also seemed to be very good at getting someone else to do his share of the chores and at looking busy when he was, in fact, doing nothing Watching him, Dolly realized that she did not want to take of Harold for the rest of her life, being responsible for all the work while he sat on the sidelines The idea of marriage was eliminated, and Dolly was thankful that she had found out about Harold before the wedding

Any individual who always leaves work for others to do is not ready for marriage This person is not mature Someone who is ready shows a willingness to accept the responsibility for carrying his or her share of the load in a marriage

To find more information and advise about relationships and marriage visit http://marriage-directory.com

Author : Kenneth Scott

A healthy and constructive attitude toward love can go a long way toward bringing you a successful marriage An attitude like this is difficult for Americans, however, mainly because of what they have been taught since they were children and the influence of romantic movies Americans tend to base marriage on a combination of factors, including the appeal and adventure of romance, a response to someone who reminds them of a person they once loved, a desire to escape an unhappy circumstance, to console themselves for a failure or disappointment, social pressures, sexual desire, and some small point of attraction

Love based on factors like these is real and intense, and several of the factors have a place in a good marriage as well The danger is that these factors are really superficial None of them is strong enough to provide the basis for a successful marriage Even all of them put together do not do so And yet, these factors are real enough to convince people that love is enough to create a successful marital relationship, and they end up selecting inappropriate mates

Parents and relatives are always interested in whom you will choose to marry, and it is right that they introduce you to potential mates and even promote them to you, within limits Since they will do these things anyway, you should be prepared, but you should not let family opinions influence you to such a degree that you will enter a marriage even if you are not ready You should be very careful of a girlfriend who say that you have led her on and that, because of your behavior, you now have a duty to marry her

While it is not a good idea to get married just because all of your friends are tying the knot, it is true that timing is important Some people get married because they believe they will be left out, and other people are so particular about potential mates that they do not marry someone who is right for them because they are waiting for the perfect person Remember, there is no perfect person Do not wait so long that you miss your chance for happiness

The kind of love that adds richness and value to a marriage must be much deeper than the superficial factors listed above This kind of love must be based on common interests, values, and goals One of the strongest and more critical of the common goals is a desire to have children The deep love required for a successful marriage is something that two partners build together during their lives Those who have found a deep basis for love can expect the thrill and romance of their connection to increase over time The deepest joy of marriage results from a relationship that is constantly developing and maturing A love that lasts is a love that is an expression of life experiences and meanings for both partners

To find more information and advise about relationships and success in marriage visit http://marriage-directory.com

Author : Jerry Leung

Wedding favors are a concept which originated from the olden times and now banned dowry system Earlier, when the father refused to give dowry for his daughters wedding, the friends and relatives of the bride gather together to give gifts to the bride and groom

This concept was first practiced by the European aristocrats who gave gifts during their wedding ceremonies At that time, it was called bonbonneires These bonbonneires were usually trinket boxes which had sugar cubes or delicate confections, these boxes were decorated with porcelain or precious stones After some time when the rate of sugar had fallen down the aristocrats had exchanged sugar with seasoned almonds

The concept of wedding favors exists almost through out the United States of America and Canada However, wedding favors have now become a growing business and will soon become an industry

The concept of wedding favors is no more a trend which portrays your wealth and royalty, but has become a necessity in wedding ceremony On many occasions, the wedding favors are given according to the theme of the wedding Giving away these gifts is a sign which declares their affection and appreciation towards their guest

Since, wedding favors have become so popular now, the retailers provide their customers with a wide range of wedding favors These wedding favors can even be personalized according to the needs and wishes of the bride and groom

To personalize your wedding favors, you must put in some thought as to what sort of a wedding favoryou would like to give their guests Bath and soap wedding favors are extremely popular amongst the bride and groom Giving the favors in accordance to their favorite fragrance and favorite color is the best This makes them remember your wedding and your wedding favor for a long time

Personalizing your wedding favors is very important if you want it to stand apart from all the other wedding favors Personalization can take place, by engraving or monogramming the gifts to be given This makes it more adorable and the guest will treasure your gift, because it was gifted particularly keeping that person in mind

Personalizing the wedding favor provides a better and long lasting effect to the wedding favor Adding a personalized note to the favor makes it more special Make sure you use an attractive paper to write the note Accompanying your favors with personalized tags will portray classy taste and good manners

Jerry Leung is a wedding invitation designer. He has websites on US Wedding Vendor Directory, Wedding Vendor Directory in HK and UK Wedding Vendors.

Author : Jerry Leung

Wedding favors have existed in the society for a very long time The initial wedding favors were trinket boxes decorated by precious stones and porcelain These boxes contained delicate confections and sugar cubes These wedding favors portrayed royalty and wealth of the person gifting them

This concept now prevails all around the United States of America and Canada Giving away these favors expresses their gratitude towards their guests and appreciation of their presence They are more of a necessity than a trend, and a lot of thought has to be put while planning for these small gifts for the guests

A wedding favor allows the bride and groom's guests to take with them a little bit of magic of the wedding There are so many kinds of wedding favors that are flooding the market that it is difficult to choose from range you are exposed to Sizes, shapes, quality and prices are the most common factors which confuse the bride and groom Personalizing their wedding favor allows them to stand apart from the other similar products It also becomes a special gift for the guests, because it is specially made and given to them This gesture makes them remember your marriage

Coffee wedding favor is the latest trend in modern day marriages These favors are right in with the latest trend Wedding favors when placed on the table are sure to be a topic of conversation during the mass gossip period

They are very practical and are more likely to be used by the guests after the wedding is over Nearly everyone drinks coffee One can use the finest quality of coffee and a little bit of decoration would make it better looking and adorable The aroma of coffee will linger around them combined with the memory of your wedding

There are so many flavors that can be appreciated by your guests, such as the Italian Blend Coffee, Chocolate Peanut Butter Coffee, Hawaiian Blend Coffee and so many other coffee blends which have an amazing aroma and an even better taste

The coffee wedding favors should be packed in a very innovative way which makes it look classy One can wrap the coffee with packets or attractive papers which match the theme of the wedding Coffee wedding favors are fast becoming a trend and are gaining popularity amongst the people The coffee favors make for very attractive and wonderful wedding favors

Jerry Leung is a wedding invitation designer. He has websites on India Wedding Vendor Directory, Wedding Vendor Directory in Australia and Singapore Wedding Vendors.

Author : Catherine Harvey

In this day and age of broken homes, single parents and latch key kids there has been a turn around in the attitude that family is not really needed Here in the UK, we took this hideous 21st Century me, me, me attitude and embraced it to the point of damaging all our relationships

What summed it up for me was the day my five year old son came home wanting to know why he didn't have a step dad and all the other kids did He thought he was being outdone even though I was happily married to his natural father!

So, in our bid to repair the damage done, UK citizens have embraced marriage counselling But surely there are other things that can be done before we get to this stage? Well, this is where inventive product design comes in Let's analyse the helpful possibilities

The 'Twodaloo' product design, for starters Two toilets that are joined together 'love seat' styley I believe this is the true definition of over-familiarity When my marriage was breaking down, being anywhere near my husband whilst he was carrying out natures necessities would have brought on a divorce so much quicker Do these people not understand that some things have to be done in private?

The fact that the Twodaloo has an inbuilt iPod docking station really doesn't help! If I wanted to listen to music with my husband to aid marital harmony, I would do it in the comfort of the living room where I wouldn't have to look at his crimson face while he disposes of last night's dinner

Of course, looking at the results of some product design you can see why relations have gone down hill fast in the last hundred years or so For the man that wanted to show true love and consideration to the woman who nurtured his offspring in 1903, there was the chest bandage Not the most glamorous present but practical nonetheless

This boned corset strapped the lactating wife in so tightly it effectively milked her into a pair of dangling rubber bags And you thought a blender was a crap present!!

The 'Love Mattress' is the result of product design that could possibly have good effects, bringing couples closer together in that they can cuddle for longer without getting a dead arm The head and foot ends of the mattress are constructed of strips of foam so that your arm slots between them whilst cuddling your partner instead of getting crushed

All well and good for the newly loved up couples but I ask you, when you've been married for ten years and your partners personal hygiene is slacking how long do you want to spend cosied up to his armpit?

Talking of newly loved up, do you remember the days when sensual massage was a Saturday night past time? Well, from the realms of product design comes the 'magic massager' This is designed to provide an effective Swedish massage, even through clothing, without the use of messy oils Guys, a tip, ditch the 'magic massager', employ a male Swedish masseur and let him get on with it

Of course, product design is often geared up for men and without disappointment comes the latest offering from Japan A remote control that is activated by winking Laziness in the extreme but if it keeps him quiet what the hell!

For the couples who really want to save their marriage, there are two product designs that I recommend One is the 'Comfort Sphere' This consists of a spherical seat that cocoons you from your partner, with personal entertainment that swings round in front of you He can watch the football and you can watch the soaps - everybody's happy

If you want to please your woman even more and score some excellent brownie points, feed into this sphere the latest chocolate products on the market Raw chocolate products are the new thing in food product design, they require less energy to produce, minimum packaging with recycled paper and are full of goodness including antioxidants, proteins, calcium and vitamins

So, good for her, good for the environment and conducive to marital harmony

Relationship expert Catherine Harvey looks at the results of recent product design to become available.